Keep up with the friends and family you keep meaning to call
You are not bad at relationships. You are bad at remembering that six months have passed since you talked to your college roommate, or that your aunt mentioned a surgery you never followed up on. Nobody sends a calendar invite for "catch up with an old friend." The people who matter most outside of work are exactly the ones with no system tracking them -- no CRM, no pipeline, no deadline forcing the follow-up.
So the gap widens quietly. A year passes. Then two. Eventually reaching out feels awkward precisely because it has been too long, which makes you less likely to do it, which makes the gap widen further. It is a problem of memory and friction, not care.
Evergreen was built for exactly this: a personal relationship database that lives on your Mac, not a sales pipeline dressed up as a contacts app. Add the people you actually want to stay close to -- friends, family, mentors, old coworkers -- and tag them however makes sense to you: family, college, close-friend. Every call, text thread, coffee, or visit gets logged as an interaction, timestamped, on that person's timeline.
Over time this becomes a quiet, honest record: not who you follow on Instagram, but who you have actually talked to, and when.
Evergreen's search understands time. Run touched:>90d and it lists everyone you have not logged an interaction with in three months. Add is:stale for Evergreen's own read on relationships that are fading based on your normal cadence with that person. This is the feature that does the actual work: instead of relying on a pang of guilt to remind you, you get a short, honest list of people worth a text this week.
The dedicated Reconnect view surfaces this same list as a standing screen, not a search you have to remember to run. Not ready to reach out to someone yet? Snooze them and they drop off the list for a week before resurfacing, instead of nagging you every time you open the app.
Evergreen's reminder engine tracks how long it has been since you logged an interaction with each contact against a staleness threshold -- ninety days by default, adjustable in settings. Cross it without a check-in, and Evergreen can automatically create a "Reconnect with [name]" action for you, respecting a cooldown so it does not pile up duplicate reminders for the same person. You are not the one who has to remember to check whether a relationship has gone quiet -- the app does that math continuously, and only hands you a to-do when one is actually due.
Evergreen's on-device chat panel runs entirely on your Mac using Apple's on-device intelligence, with access to your notes and interaction history and the ability to act on them -- it is built for exactly the kind of question you would ask before reaching out to someone you have not talked to in a while: what you last discussed, what you owe them, what has been going on in their life. It reads straight from that person's record, so you walk into the call already caught up instead of opening with "so, what's new with you" and hoping for the best.
Notes about a friend's health, a family member's finances, or a relationship that is going through something hard are not things you want sitting in a cloud CRM. Evergreen stores everything locally in a SQLite database on your Mac. No accounts, no cloud sync, no telemetry. The record of your closest relationships exists on your machine and nowhere else.